Various events and problems can make it easier for us to focus on the negative aspects rather than the good things that exist in our lives. How can we become people who see the cup as ‘half full’ rather than ‘half empty’? How can we make the most of any situation? I hope this post will help you find some answers and I hope it will encourage you to find ways of becoming a more positive individual.
So here are some key points to becoming more positive (in no particular order)
Keep track of your progress
Sometimes, in all the rush of things, you can forget how far you have already come and so you may keep plodding on to the next venture without acknowledging the positives. If you just keep going and don’t stop every so often, you might lose track of where you are and what you have already achieved, so you may find that you feel like you’re not getting very far.
This is why it’s important to congratulate yourself on your achievements, whether these are personal, professional or in any other capacity.
No matter how big or small you may perceive them; all achievements are significant in some way. Keeping track can give us a sense of self-worth and motivation to keep going.
Whether you write it down, tell yourself out loud or in your head, or share it with others, it’s important that you notice when something has gone well, and when you have made an accomplishment.
Get rid of negativity from your vocabulary
It’s easy to say “I can’t do that” or “I won’t be able to do it.”
Think of at least one positive outcome of doing something that you may find daunting, tedious or boring. That way, you can congratulate yourself and feel proud when you have done something you didn’t feel like doing.
Know your strengths
Remind yourself of your strengths, skills and personal qualities. What are you good at? What do others say you are good at? If you don’t know, then ask a friend, relative or anyone you know and trust to tell you what they think. Others often see us differently to how we see ourselves.
Write these things down or tell yourself out loud. Refer back to what you have written when you are feeling negative towards yourself. You will be able to remind yourself that you actually have a lot going for you.
Write downs positive thoughts and quotes
Although it may be hard sometimes to think positively, I often find myself coming up with lots of ideas and thoughts in the evenings and at night. My ideas just seem to flow at this time of the day, which is why you will often see me tweeting numerous positive thoughts later on in the day.
However, if you struggle with coming up with these by yourself, then why not use the Internet to help you? Look for positive quotes and phrases, and if you find any that you particularly like and find useful, write them down. Sometimes I just scribble down a load of positive quotes and thoughts into a notebook and I refer back to them when I’m feeling down or I need motivation.
It’s okay not be okay, but you can make it better
It’s okay to feel down, sad or upset. Don’t think that you shouldn’t be feeling a certain way because it’s unjustified or not acceptable. You are entitled to feel whatever comes naturally to you and you can’t be expected to hide your feelings. You can’t just switch off your emotions.
However, sometimes it may become difficult to get out of a negative and vicous circle of our own thoughts and feelings. It’s important to make sure we don’t spend too much time over-thinking and being negative.
When you’re feeling down, tell someone. Tell anyone at all. Don’t feel that you’re a burden because you’re actually far from it. Someone out there cares about you and wants to know that you’re okay, and if you’re not okay, they want to help.
Take a step towards being positive and feeling a little better by writing down how you feel. Pour it out onto the paper. Use words, pictures, phrases or anything you feel is necessary to illustrate how you feel. Keep going until you feel like a weight has been lifted. It doesn’t matter how odd or messy the page may look after, as long as you let everything out onto the paper. After, read back on it, then come back to it a few days later and see if anything has changed. If anything has changed since then, what is it? Write that down too.
So there you have it, just some ways you can take a step to becoming more positive. Let me know what you think and as always, I am here for anyone who needs a friendly chat and a caring ear to listen.